Dear Melanie,

    So, I just started dating this girl probably about three weeks ago – if that. We both live on campus and we hang out a lot. She likes to “Netflix and chill” all the time, but I don’t like to sit around all day like she does. I go to the gym at least 4-5 times a week for an hour or so each time and she is as lazy as they come. My girlfriend is not out of shape or anything, but I just wish she would come to the gym with me at least 2 out of the 5 times a week that I go. I don’t think she needs to lose weight or anything; I just want it to be something we do together since it’s something that I love doing. I ask her to come with me almost every time that I go, but she always has an excuse and when I come back from the gym she is still sitting there watching Netflix. What do I do? I don’t want to break up or anything; I just don’t know how to get her to come with me. It’s kind of a turn off that she doesn’t seem interested.

Sincerely,
Frustrated Flexer

Dear Frustrated Flexer,

The most important thing in this situation is how you approach it. Next time you ask her to accompany you and she says no, explain to her that it is something that you love doing and you would enjoy it more if she tagged along. Tell her that you can train her and that she can start off working out for a short period of time before going for an hour or so. Just let her know that health and fitness is important to you and it is something you admire and that you guys should start going together every once in a while! Hopefully when she realizes that its something you admire, she will come through and join you at the gym every now and then! Good luck.

XOXO,
Melanie