Ask Melanie


Dear Melanie,

I’ve had plans to go to Miami with my friends for Spring Break since December; the only problem is, my now ex-boyfriend has also been a part of the plans. We broke up a couple of weeks ago and now it’s going to be super awkward on this trip. How do I deal?



Dear Reader,

This does sound like a strange situation, but you can still have a great time. You are going to have to try to be mature or fake it, at least until you get back. It would be rude of you to make it uncomfortable for the other people who are on the trip.

The best thing to do is to try your best to steer clear of him. Just because you guys are going on a trip does not mean that you have to do every single thing together. You can break up into “teams”, and do different things and if you guys end up doing things as a large group, then don’t sit near him and just focus on having a good time. If you guys were originally going to share a room, see if a switch can be made; I’m sure your friends will understand.

You might want to start a fight with him (because, let’s face it, we all do at some point. Especially during the break-up), but just wait until you guys get back to reality. Your vacation is for you to diffuse, relax and have fun.

There are really no rules to this. All you can do is try to put your differences aside for the good of the group and have fun. You can also try talking to him before the trip to make sure you’re both on the same page about how to be cordial!