What has become of the days when the proper way to get to know a girl was to take her out to dinner and a movie? Where are all the boys waiting at the front door with flowers and chocolates? The ugly truth is that in today’s generation, a gentleman is far and few between. For a girl in her early twenties, a real relationship has become something of a fairytale because dating is done, romance is dead, and chivalry is history.
Although there are some old fashioned boys out there who still see the importance in letting a girl get dolled up and making her feel like a princess for the night, for the most part, dating is a thing of the past. Our culture has a very one-track mind; we want what we want and we want it now, and what most people “want” is to hook up.
Nobody goes on dates anymore because that would be a complete waste of time and money. If the ultimate goal is to “hook up,” what is the point in spending all night with a girl, paying for her dinner, and ending the date with a simple goodnight kiss?
Boys are no longer concerned with getting to know a girl, and they do not appreciate good conversation or good company like they used to. The main thought running through their mind is who is going home with them at the end of the night.
As critical as I might sound of the male sex, I do not blame them for romance being dead. Instead, the blame actually falls on us, the ever-disappointed girls, because we have become a generation of settlers. That is our specialty. We settle for being treated as “the girl of the night,” instead of “the love of your life.” Boys are only giving us the bare minimum, because that’s what we have adapted to; it is what we now expect and accept.
As females, we have stopped demanding to be treated like the queens in a king’s game of chess. In an effort to be independent and viewed as an equal, we have enabled men to treat us as a mere pawn, easily lost, and just as easily replaced. We no longer demand that doors be held open for us or chairs pulled out for us to sit, or that we are wined and dined, or even appreciated. Boys have the mindset that they can treat a girl however they please, because what one girls not willing to do, the next one is.We are playing a losing game.
However, it’s never too late to reverse the roles, we can take back control of our relationships quicker than we ever lost it. It’s actually really simple, STOP SETTLING!
Girls, you are amazing and beautiful, and you deserve to be treated as such. Stop wasting time on boys who only want one thing from you and start looking for a gentleman who will respect you. Your real Prince Charming will know just how lucky he is when he has you, and he might be right around the corner!
