College is a big decision that most high school seniors stress over for weeks, from filling out applications and scholarship to waiting for the letter that can either make you happy or disappointed.
Getting into college isn’t the only thing that some people have to worry about, but the people they are going to leave behind when they leave. I’m a freshman at UNH and I live over three hours away from my family and friends and at the time, my fiancé. I got engaged a few weeks before I left for school and I felt like there was nothing at college that could ruin what I had with him at the time.
But this is college, and you meet new people every day that goes by. Things get harder and you want to have fun, so why be involved with someone from back home who doesn’t know what you are doing every day and you don’t know what they are doing either?
College is a new chapter in your life that is going to get you started with your future and open you to a whole new world. Being attached to things back home can stop you from accepting some opportunities that come your way, like hooking up with a girl that seems like she wants to go home with you from the club, to leaving for three months to live in Italy for a semester. For all you people that have relationships with people from back home and you haven’t cheated on them, then kudos to you because I could not do that. I am no longer engaged or in a relationship with anyone from home and I love it. There is no one to tell me that I can’t go to the club or hang out with my guy friends; I can just have fun in college like I wanted to.
To all you people in a relationship with people from home and you are cheating on them, why? When going to clubs and going home with random people to hook up, what do you tell your girlfriend or boyfriend when you don’t answer their texts messages or calls while you are too busy “having fun?” And from experience, I know that when my ex-fiancé couldn’t get a hold of me when I was at the club it would lead to a fight, if not later that night the next morning. Are you relationship people to afraid to let go of your past to completely open yourself to the college life and all that it can offer?
Open your eyes. Everyone is. Look around you, you are in college on a campus living your life to make it better and you do not need anyone holding you back from being truly happy. If you have no fights and you still feel the love for that person, then by all means keep it going. But for the majority of people I talk to, that is not the case.
